Online dating can be a bit of a challenge for those who are used to speaking with women in-person and those who are naturally shy around the opposite sex. You probably think that your selection of words while communicating online will dictate your success with women. This is partially true. What matters most is getting to the point.

The difference between those who score hot chicks through online dating and those who go home alone often boils down to aversion to risk. Individuals who beat around the bush (no pun intended) and slowly work up to flirting with women typically end up in the “friend zone”. The successful guys are not content with being merely friends. They want to be lovers. They make their intentions known but rarely in an explicit manner.

The key is to make it known that you want women to view you as a romantic interest rather than as an acquaintance. Spice up your messages with hints about your intentions. Compliment women on anything and everything to make it crystal clear that you are really into them. Do not put any sort of limitations on potential date plans at the outset. When you send messages asking women to spend time with you, do so in an open ended manner. This way, she’ll consider taking the interaction to the next level after dancing, dining, strolling in the park or doing another activity together.

When interacting with women online, it is imperative that you do not talk too dirty. Save that for the bedroom. If you are too explicit regarding your intentions, women might interpret you as a pervert who is obsessed with sex. Instead, provide subtle hints that you want a lot more than friendship or merely someone to hang out with during the evening. Send a message about how sexy she looks in her profile picture. Or, leave a note about how you would love to be peering into her eyes over a candlelit dinner. Your communications do not have to be lewd nor should they be overly formal. Successful flirting is all about working the middle ground between these two extremes.