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Just about everyone has been indoctrinated by the mainstream media and sources of authority to think of hookups as a superficial form of evil. This outlook is quite damaging and could not be further from the truth. Let’s take a look at why hookups are good.

Why Hookups are Good: Stress Relief

One of the best ways to reduce your stress level is to enjoy a hookup with an attractive mate. You work extremely hard to pay your rent/mortgage and other bills. You deserve to play just as hard. Enjoy a hookup with a flame and you will find that you feel considerably less stressed. Your mood will brighten, you will be less inclined to overeat and you will feel as though you are on top of the world. This type of inner peace is absolutely priceless. A regular hookup will almost certainly improve your work performance and lessen the odds of a stress-induced temper flare-up in the office or at home.

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The Benefits of Hookups: A Test Drive

Would you commit to a car before test driving it? If you are like most people, you desire a test spin, the chance to kick the tires, test the seats’ comfort and gauge the vehicle’s handling. After all, a vehicle is a major investment. The same statements hold true for relationships. Why should you commit to an individual if you aren’t sure whether the two of you are sexually compatible? There is no sense in wasting time on numerous dates, texts and phone calls with a potential flame if it turns out that you have no chemistry in the bedroom. Hookups give you the chance to determine if the two of you are on the same page in terms of sex and general intimacy. It is better to find out whether you have sexual chemistry with a potential lover now rather than after you have spent dozens, hundreds or even thousands of hours with that person. There is nothing more valuable than your time. It is the one resource you will never get back.

Hookups Require Less Investment Than a Full-Fledged Relationship

Consider the monetary, time and emotional investment required of a traditional relationship. You spend hours upon hours courting a potential mate. You spend hundreds, thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars on dates, gifts and other shared experiences. Furthermore, a traditional relationship requires you to make an emotional commitment with your muse. Wouldn’t it be nice if you could simply cut to the chase and get exactly what you truly desire? It is possible in the form of a hookup. Hooking up with someone who arouses your interest saves you plenty of time, money and effort. There is no need to splurge on lavish gifts or spend hours on the phone, manipulating the other person with the hope that they reciprocate with sex. Hookups get right to the point. You both want sex and you can get it with no strings attached through a hookup.

 

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Technology is topping the trend when it comes to dating and hookups. How do these dating apps measure up to traditional methods of looking for a hookup?

In a world where technology is quickly replacing all means of normal and face to face communication, it stands to reason that it would bleed over into the world of dating and hookups. One trend that has been around for a minute and shows no signs of leaving is using technology to find your next hookup.

The Art of the Hookup App

Everyone has heard of the infamous Tinder and swiping left or right and as Tinder grows in popularity and keeps getting bigger, it is now one of the most used apps to find other willing participants in your hookup. Though apps like Snapchat were not meant to be used to find hookups, it is also becoming a popular place for people to find other people that share your interests and that want to hookup casually without the strings and ties that come with a traditional relationship.

Coming to the Light

The world is slowly but surely opening up to the idea of hookups and that they may not be as terrible as people previously thought. Some people simply do not want to have a long relationship and finding other people that they are compatible with that also want a hookup is becoming more and more common. In a day and age when you can use your phone to do anything, it is not surprising that these apps exist to help people have casual encounters that are nothing short of great without the strings.

Not everyone is cut out for a long term relationship but most people enjoy sex so one night hookups for interested and willing parties only make sense. In a world where people are now more comfortable with themselves and their sexuality than ever before one night hookups are not that uncommon and they are not nearly as frowned on as they once were. Though there will always be those people that think you should not have sex without being in committed, monogamous, and even perhaps legally binding relationship, there are just as many that think you should be able to do what you please with your body. One night hookups are not as taboo as they once were freeing plenty of people from obligation that they just do not want.

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the most shocking hookups on survivor

 

 

Probably everyone has thought about who they would want to be marooned on a deserted island with. Super models, sports heroes, actors and actresses. It is all imaginary, but for the contestants on Survivor, it is as close to real as possible. The hit reality show has been around for over 15 years now and, within this time, there have been a large number of hookups. After all, when you’re stuck on an island for weeks on end around attractive individuals, something’s going to give. Well, while there will surely be more in the coming seasons, here are a few of the most shocking hookups (and extended relationships) to take place on Survivor.

Whitney Duncan and Keith Tollefson

Here’s a couple that met during season “South Pacific” in Samoa. The two just seemed to have this bubbly personality and connection. For anyone who watched the season back in 2011, they all could see something brewing between the two. You can always tell when there is a “thing” between two people just by the way they look at each other. Well, these two shared those looks and it become rather apparent the two were having a bit of additional fun. In fact, the producers from CBS loved the pair so much they decided to put them on the Amazing Race. They struck out at all of their reality TV shows, but hey, the two are hitched now, so maybe they won in the end.

Julie Berry and Jeff Probst

So it didn’t appear on television, and supposedly nothing actually took place while Julie appeared on “Vanuatu” (although they probably have to say that for legal reasons), but host Jeff Probst and Julie Berry started to “officially” date after the show. Sure, the two are no longer together now, but when the host of a show starts dating a contestant on the show, that has to go down as one of the most shocking Hookups connected to Survivor.

Greg Buis and Colleen Haskell

This took place in the very first season of Survivor. The show really has changed since the first season. Now, contestants are rather well fed (at least compared to the early seasons) and since nobody had seen the show before, nobody outside of Richard knew how to play the game. Greg and Colleen were that adorable couple that just had an innocent chemistry with each other. Of course, they were also having a bit of fun on the side, but this really is the original Survivor couple.

“Boston” Rob Mariano and Amber Brikich

So the two are married now and they have appeared on all sorts of reality shows, from multiple Survivor renditions to multiple seasons of the Amazing Race as well. Rob was one of those characters you either loved or hated, but it was impossible to not like this couple together. Of course, Rob and Amber had a major fling going during the show. At first it really came out of nowhere, but then it just started to make more sense.

 

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Dating Reality

You try to keep your car looking shiny, you spend time at bars and clubs, you break your back at work and let’s face it- if you weren’t doing all of that in order to raise your sexual market value then you’d either be living in a cardboard box or you’d be a manic bastard.

Stuck in the Dating Matrix

But if even for a moment, you were to suggest to a date or any woman at all really that you’re only out to gratify your sexual desire you’d get a drink in your face and possibly a harassment charge. Okay, maybe that’s not a fair characterization of your motivations. Maybe you really want to find a woman to have a meaningful relationship with, spark up a valuable and lasting friendship and build a lifetime of memories with. That’s certainly plausible and acceptable, and fine and not in the least bit boring.

But, in the meantime, it wouldn’t hurt to sow your wild oats and get laid with no ulterior long-term motives. Why should we be ashamed of not wanting to marry every woman we go to bed with? What do we want, to go back to the Victorian era? Not willingly, I’ll tell you that. And, I’ll tell you this, leading theorists are now saying that all socially imposed sexual reservation has an evolutionary explanation. They say that prudery exists in order to hold people back just long enough that when they finally jump into bed and go at it the chances of conception becomes much greater than if they were getting laid every day. So even sexual repression is dirty.

WOMAN

Enough is Enough

Why not admit it. The reason you’re looking at those other sites is to hook up with someone to get lucky with. So why not get off the sites where you have to pretend to want to walk on the beach with a stranger? Come on. You know it’s too cold this time of year to be walking on beaches in the evening.

Have a click around at a dating site where everyone is there genitals-first and isn’t afraid to admit. Aren’t you sick of all the pretense and deceptive selfies? Of course you are. Save yourself a hell of a lot of time and grief- and, have a little fun for once.

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Are you looking for a relationship that has few, if any strings attached? Are you interested in women who

woman looking for a discreet relationship
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will be discreet and respect any particular parts of your life that need to be kept private>

If you are attached but are still looking for something a little … extra … there are some ways to find that special someone to add some spice to your love life.

Finding those relationships can be tricky, especially if you live in a small town or have a large social or professional network. Flirting in a bar with an attractive person might raise some eyebrows. Workplace flings, also known as dipping your pen in the company ink, can get messy and mentioned fast. Both situations might get back to someone in your life. Those kinds of unintended consequences are not what you want.

There are some other choices. Traveling out of town lets you be in a place where you’re likely not going to be identified. Staying at a hotel during the work week? The bar or cocktail lounge is likely to be swimming with other professionals who need to relax and release after a pressure-filled day away from home.

Connecting with that high school or college flame on social media can also work. You just might find out that they too are looking for something different or that they also have unresolved urges from your shared younger days.

Online dating is very helpful and effective. There you will find like-minded women who are looking for the same thing you are. Maybe they too need that extra someone in your life. They may also be attracted to successful guys (or gals) with other obligations. They might also be looking for something with not a lot of complications or attachments. Sites that specialize in discretion are visited by women with the same intentions as you. They let you search for the body types, fantasies, locations and timing that work for you.

Discreet dating  is possible and can be very rewarding … for both of you.

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The difference between a good one-night stand and a great one are these five simple questions:

1: What are they looking for tonight?

Above all, make sure that the one-night stand is only looking for a one-night stand (with a possibility of future booty calls, of course). Nothing is worse than finding out that one night of fun for one person is practically getting engaged to the other!

2: What are their future plans?

The best way to get those future booty calls is to treat the one-night stand like more than a one-night stand. Typical date rules still apply–finding out what she does and what her five year plans are is a great way to stand out from other hook-ups who treat her like she’s a disposable toy.

3: What they would like for breakfast?

This is a great “two-for-one” kind of question because it signifies to the date the intention of a one-night stand–that she will still be there in the morning. And it’s a functional, courteous question–the lover that is cooking her favorite omelettes in the morning is going to see more repeat business than the lover who tells her to just find something in the fridge.

4: What are their favorite activities on a date?

This is another question both fun and functional. If in the middle of a date, it helps in planning out the rest of the night. Customizing the rest of the date to her idea of fun helps to make sure she’s interested in that omelette breakfast, and hearing about what she thinks is fun helps to gauge her personality…valuable clues to have before the bedroom door shuts.

5: What is their impression of you?

This helps with making light conversation, but is also a good investment in finding future partners–knowing that she instantly liked the hair or hated the outfit means there’s a chance to adjust certain things before going out on the prowl next time!

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When I was a child, it was still permissible for teachers to punish students by hitting them. In my elementary school, this consisted of having to stand at the teacher’s desk with hands extended, while she hit my hands with a ruler.

I was an early bloomer, so by the time I was in sixth grade my body was changing and the hormones started raging. I did not pay much attention in class, except to flirt with the girls and try to imagine what sex would be like with them. I got into trouble plenty of times for this.

Sexual-Fantasies

One time, when the teacher bent over to slap my hands with a ruler, I got a great view inside the top of her blouse and could see just enough of her breasts to get excited. She was a young woman, in her twenties, and super hot looking. After this, I never felt any pain from the punishment, only excitement. Often I would start to get boner while the punishment was in progress, returning afterwards quickly to my seat to cover it up with my books.

I guess this childhood experience is why, as an adult, I get pleasure from having a little pain associated with sexual arousal. I am not into heavy pain; it is just that a little spanking or correction by a hot dominatrix really turns me on.

Boy was I happy to discover adult dating sites that had willing participants to help me fulfill my fantasies. I am a tall, macho guy, so asking a woman to spank me without knowing she is already into such things was too embarrassing for me to try it. However, after I met a woman through an adult dating site who liked to dominate men for sexual pleasure, my fantasy dreams came true.

It turns out she happens to be a teacher! In her regular life, she is a bit shy and men do not treat her with respect. Her fantasy was to control a masculine man and punish him for being a “bad” boy. We made the perfect match. I am so happy to have met this wonderful woman through an adult dating site that specializes in hook-ups that fulfill fantasies. Everyone who has special desires should try this.

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On-line dating sites and mobile apps for hook-ups enable casual sexual encounters. The opportunities for sexual adventures in any major city are outstanding.

Here are five common types of one-night stands and ways to have a better experience:

I Got So Drunk Last Night

Drinking alcohol removes inhibitions, which is good, but also creates poor judgment that may have unintended consequences. To avoid a nasty surprise, during the morning after, do not invite hook-ups to your home. A hotel room is better. If possible, rent the hotel room for only a few hours. Take a taxi home before morning. In this way, there are only fuzzy memories of the night before and it is easier to deal with a massive hangover alone.

Escaping from One that Won’t Let Go

Trying to change a one-night sexual encounter into a longer relationship usually ruins the game. To get out of this jam as quickly as possible, have someone else call at the appropriate time with an emergency need. There is a nice exception to this rule when both sexual partners want the one-night stand to develop into a friendship with benefits, for late-night “booty” calls in the future.

Get Freaky

One-night stands are opportunities to express sexual freedom and try exciting new things like a three-way or to explore sexual fantasies. It is easier to communicate specific sexual desires electronically, before actually meeting face-to-face. Don’t be shy. Be explicit and offer many details of what the encounter should be like.

Foreigner Visitors and Others on Vacation

Anyone in the city for only a short time and those new to the area want to have as much fun as possible. Limited time in the city prevents the forming of longer-term relationships. This time pressure helps visitors be comfortable with quickly getting to the good part, which is having hot sex with a stranger.

 

 

Business Casual

Meet potential sexual partners at business parties, company events, conferences, seminars, and even chance encounters at the hotel. Besides the hotel bar, try the fitness room and/or swimming pool. Invite a “hottie” back to the room for a cocktail.

Summary

Opportunities for one-night stands are readily available in any big city. Stay safe and have an approach that makes the encounters more enjoyable.

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Everyone knows the tried and true method of going to the nearby “singles” bar to try to pick up a “hottie” for a one-night stand. The problem with this classic method is that so many use it. That is why it fails more often than it succeeds. There are better alternatives.

A few powerful, independent women make the first move and we love them for that. Nevertheless, when it comes to one-nighters, usually the guy has to do most of the work. He gets a boatload of rejection before scoring. Even with gay men, less handsome men pursue the more handsome ones. Don’t give up. Being rejected a lot means you are that much closer to getting a yes.

What Does An Average Guy Do to Increase One-Night Stand Success?

Here are some helpful tips:

  • Work the Ratios in Your Favor – Make sure to find places where the odds are in your favor. If the place has twenty guys for every girl, gay men have a chance of picking up some “rough trade,” but straight guys need to go somewhere else.
  • Alternatives to Clubs – Private events are good, because they have an automatic reason for happening, which makes is easy to start a conversation with someone attractive. Try wedding receptions, birthday parties, a backyard barbeque, and social events of all kinds.
  • Technology – Join adult websites that make it easy to find hookups.
  • Sexy Compliments – Go for the second or third most attractive one. Notice something about them that they may think is a flaw and compliment them about it. Examples are: 1) When a woman has a gap between her front teeth, tell her that means she has a bag of sugar down there. 2) For a man with a big nose, tell him that is a sure indication he is bigger than average. If you get a smile, you’re in.

Summary

Have fun. Get your game on and take it to new places to meet more people. This increases your chances of one-night stands.

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Many people are increasingly attracted to one night relationships, partly due to the relatively fast tract opportunity towards the achievement of sexual intercourse within a very small time. One night stand often results from saying hello to your mate to sex often within few hours after you meet her

Advantages of one night stands

One night stands offer some advantages to those involved in the situation. It enables two people to fulfill their sexual desires almost instantly after they meet one another without the usual drama, and long courtship often involving weeks and months before sexual intercourse. One night stands also eliminates the strings often attached, prior to two people enter into sexual intercourse. Many consider one night stands as fun.

How to find one night stands

To find one night stands here are the best places to find it

  • Bars and Night Club scenes-women are loose at night clubs and bars
  • Wedding Crashers-Women are more emotional after watching wedding vows
  • Holiday Parties- More affection during holiday periods
  • Birthday Parties-go after the girl celebrating her birthday

Strategy

Use different strategy, at the events such as described above when you first walk in scan through all the women around and select the women that will likely be a good candidate, don’t go after the hottest chicks, you have less competition with less attractive girls. Settle down with a choice, and let her know you consider her to be the most attractive girl around even if she is not. They will be blown away and may likely believe you and what you say the rest of the evening. Make pristine first impression, approach her with confidence, and engage her with a good conversation. Do everything in your power to make her feel good about you and herself, to boost her ego and thrust as well as her confidence. Chances are high you may take her home for your one night stand.

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