If you and your partner are looking to add another person to your sex life, you are not alone. According to the LELO 2014 Global Sex Survey, a whopping 20 percent of women have taken part in a threesome; this number up 10 percent from just two years prior.

While this number might be higher or lower than you expected, you can bet that a higher percentage of women have fantasized about it.  For some women, it is a fantasy they like to think about but don’t wish to act on. For others, the idea of a threesome involving another female is so erotic that they are more than willing to give it a go–if they can only find someone to join in.

Finding a Third

If you and your partner are of the “more than willing” variety, the only thing standing in your way might be finding another willing party. You can check with friends, but this presents an awkward situation if the person declines. The best way to find a third is to use an online forum such as SexNDate where people state exactly what they are looking for in a casual sex encounter.

 Tips for a Successful Threesome

Once you find the right addition to your fantasy, there are a few ways you can make your ménage à trois more successful.

• Set Some Rules – You can reduce insecurities by setting ground rules. All parties should freely state what they are up for and what is off limits.
• Meet in a Public Place – If you have only video-chatted or spoke on the phone, consider meeting in a public place such as a hotel lounge. Get to know one another a bit before moving things to the bedroom.

Threesomes are a way to spice up any relationship, whether committed or casual, as long as both partners are confident in the decision.