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the first date guide part 3 - how to win him over on the first date

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First dates are like the first day at school. You want to be liked, make a good impression, and create lasting relationships. Whether you meet your guy at a party, a bar, or at the local library, your first date is the initial interaction that you have with your new boo. Your first thought will likely be how to win him over on the first date? How do you win this guy over and have him wrapped around your finger hanging off of every word?

Lay on the charm

You are a charming lady, clearly! If it weren’t for your natural charm, you wouldn’t be on the first date. Don’t let your nerves ruin your date. Simply shake them off and lay on the charm that your guy has already fallen for.

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What’s unique about you

There is that special something about everyone. Maybe you are a collector with infinite knowledge about West African art or maybe you have an interesting career path that most haven’t heard of. Whatever it may be that makes you unique and interesting, highlight those apspects and show your date that you are a catch, a one of a kind that they can not risk missing a chance with.

Listen to him

Here’s a fact; people love to talk about themselves, their passions, and the things they love to do. Don’t monopolize the conversation with talks about you. Give your date a chance to talk about themselves but more importantly, listen to them. Actively engage in conversation without steering it back towards you. Ask engaging questions that allows them to elaborate.

Lay off the liquor

Yes, a few adult beverages helps to loosen you up and no, there is nothing wrong with that. However, beyond two drinks is too much and you should avoid over drinking at all costs. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and control which is not a good look on the first date. You may start slurring your words, sweating, and turn into a total mess. Don’t be that girl on the first date.

Use light touching to show your interest

It is easy for a guy to misconstrue a night out and assume that their date is not actually as interested in them because the signals were unclear. Help make your interest completely clear by touching his shoulder when you laugh, offering him a warm embrace when you enter the date, and grazing his hand through the date. Light touches provide positive body language that your date will definitely pick up on.

Offer to go dutch at the end of the date

The date is over and the bill has arrived. Offer to split the bill with your date one time. Now, you should always go on a first date prepared to pay even though that is not the gentlemanly thing for a man to do if he knows how to lay a girl on the first date. Men love to be able to tell you to put your money away so that they can pay and will love even more that you don’t feel entitled for them to pay for you.

 

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The Art of Sexting
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The sexual energy that once built exclusively in person or over the phone, now no longer requires sound or physical connections. It’s amazing that technology has transformed the way we hookup and get aroused. Today the art of sexting is the new foreplay and you must have the skills to get it right or your mate will simply not be interested. There are a lot of tips when it comes to sexting, but the most important rule is Keep it Simple – it’s the shorter length that wins the race.

Sexting on the Go – Do’s and Don’ts

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  1. Drop a random text during the day, start slow. Try, “I need it now!” That should throw your mate for a loop in the middle of their office meeting – game on.
  2. Take time to respond. Pace yourself, don’t reply immediately. A slow reaction helps build the tension.
  3. Describe the first move, be detailed that’s what creates the sexual energy. Tell him you’re on your knees waiting or you can tell her how it’s going to begin. Tap into the details and boost the excitement.

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  1. Send dick pics – Women just don’t want to see your junk on their phone. Besides, is that really what your should be doing?
  2. No emojiis – Use descriptive words and not animated smiley faces. Emojiis are great for mom and dad but not for your lover.
  3. Get emotional – Save your emotional sentiments for the face to face time. Keep the sexting raw, impulsive, and dirty.

Sexting is an art and not a science, so just keep it flowing. Flowing the tips here will help get your sexting game up to par and ready for action. Next time you see someone locked to their phone you won’t think about it the same way anymore. There’s a lot of sexual energy being sent over the airwaves, it’s time to taste some of it yourself.

 

The Art of Sexting
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Female Sex Fantasies
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There are a lot of female sex fantasies and at one time or another, you should make the effort to make them happen. After all, it’s no fun to simply fantasize. You want to be the one actually acting them out so that you can put a notch on your sexy bucket list.

  1. Out in the Open

Everyone has a little exhibitionism in them and the idea of possibly being caught can be hot. Not out in the open where there are a lot of people, but perhaps a park…

  1. At the Movies

Forget about making out in the theatre. There’s a completely dark room and super comfortable seats. Just move the popcorn aside.

  1. With a Stranger

Don’t use names. You meet someone, you find that instant connection, and urges are acted out upon immediately.

  1. At the Beach

With the sound of the waves crashing, it can be a great place to have sex. Just be sure to bring a blanket if it becomes a reality because sand and lady bits are not a good combination.

  1. On Camera

The idea of having a camera rolling while in the act is hot, hot, hot. Being able to watch it afterwards can help to bring back the mood instantly, too.

 

 

  1. In a Group Setting

Two is nice, but threesomes and moresomes can allow the “all hands on deck” that is highly worth fantasizing about.

  1. With Some Spanking

With a paddle or a bare hand, spanking can help to set the mood almost instantly.

  1. Tied Up

Women like to be tied up in many instances because they get to surrender. Whether it’s with rope, silk ties, or handcuffs, it’s definitely worth trying at least once.

  1. With Chocolate

Chocolate syrup dripping down particular body parts is hot – and having someone who is willing to lick all of that syrup up is even hotter.

  1. Sex in the Shower

There’s something about water beating down and lots of suds that is erotic and highly worth fantasizing about.

Female Sex Fantasies
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Dirty Talk
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Dirty pillow talk, some like it, some don’t- and some could use a little coaxing. A little bit of dirty talking can be just the thing to turn your sex life up to 11- but it can be scary for some. If you you would like to do a little bit of dirty talking in bed and don’t know how your partner will respond, or if you think your partner would like you to talk dirty- but you’re a bit squeamish- here are a few tips to help get your love life off the Mute setting.

Test the Waters

If you don’t know how your partner feels about dirty talk, start off light. Saying something using a sexy tone of voice that isn’t normally sexy like, “Hey, beautiful” or “How are you feeling right now,” can be sexy if you use the right tone of voice and body language. This is just to see what it feels like to speak while initiating sex, and is a good way to get an idea of how receptive your partner will be.
 

It Needn’t be Rude

Don’t assume that dirty talk means using degrading language. This isn’t necessarily so. There are a lot of things to say other than “T-k- it b—-,” or “F— my p—y.” It’s the way you say it rather than what you’re saying. For example, you can say complimentary things using a sexy tone of voice that should go over fine with just about anyone. Phrases like, “You feel so good,” or “I love the way you do that” are hot and laudatory at the same time. If you or your partner would like to use language that is somewhat more x-rated, then you can easily work up to that once you’ve made sure you’re both comfortable with it.

 

Easing into Dirty Talk

Silent love making is okay, but gets boring after a while. So start out with a few quiet non-speech sounds. A moan or an Mmm sound can be a good start. Move on to the testing phrases while things get warmed up and then begin to experiment with things like the complimentary statements we mentioned. After that, if you’re both still in the mood- you’re free to take your dirty talking as far as you like.

Dirty Talk
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how to flirt with girls
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Online dating can be a bit of a challenge for those who are used to speaking with women in-person and those who are naturally shy around the opposite sex. You probably think that your selection of words while communicating online will dictate your success with women. This is partially true. What matters most is getting to the point.

The difference between those who score hot chicks through online dating and those who go home alone often boils down to aversion to risk. Individuals who beat around the bush (no pun intended) and slowly work up to flirting with women typically end up in the “friend zone”. The successful guys are not content with being merely friends. They want to be lovers. They make their intentions known but rarely in an explicit manner.

The key is to make it known that you want women to view you as a romantic interest rather than as an acquaintance. Spice up your messages with hints about your intentions. Compliment women on anything and everything to make it crystal clear that you are really into them. Do not put any sort of limitations on potential date plans at the outset. When you send messages asking women to spend time with you, do so in an open ended manner. This way, she’ll consider taking the interaction to the next level after dancing, dining, strolling in the park or doing another activity together.

When interacting with women online, it is imperative that you do not talk too dirty. Save that for the bedroom. If you are too explicit regarding your intentions, women might interpret you as a pervert who is obsessed with sex. Instead, provide subtle hints that you want a lot more than friendship or merely someone to hang out with during the evening. Send a message about how sexy she looks in her profile picture. Or, leave a note about how you would love to be peering into her eyes over a candlelit dinner. Your communications do not have to be lewd nor should they be overly formal. Successful flirting is all about working the middle ground between these two extremes.

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Women on Online Dating Sites
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You’ve decided to take the plunge and sign up for an online dating profile. You’ve scanned your best picture, entered your stats, and are readying to see what kind of match is waiting for you. As you browse through the profiles, you’re likely to see a few similarities in the types of women found on dating sites. Although some of these types may appeal to you, there are others that should have you running in the opposite direction.

Miss Look at Me I’m Super Hot

These profiles are meant to be the attention grabbers on dating sites. They are likely the basis of the ads that made you join the dating site in the first place. To spot this type of woman, just do a quick scan of her pictures to look for any of the following: bikini poses, cleavage shots, blowing kisses, and bending over. These profiles are just screaming “attention whore.”

Miss Free Spirit

These types of women will likely have rummaged their profile picture outfits out of the bins at a thrift store. She will tout herself as a “feminist” or a “progressive” and has the tattoos and piercings to prove it.

Miss Hustler

You’re on a dating site and finally seem to be hitting it off with one of the women. She’s sweet, pretty, and laughs at all of your awful jokes. You ask to chat more online and this is where she gives you her price tag: $30 an hour to chat privately on her own adult website.

Miss Confused

Women on Online Dating Sites
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Some women on dating sites can’t decide on the persona they want to project. Are they the good girl who wants a nice Christian boy to bring home to the parents? Or are they into the kinky stuff and want you to tie them up and do naughty things? Listing “Fifty Shades of Grey” and the “Passion of Christ” as favorite movies isn’t the wisest decision.

Miss Catfish

There are women who are outright liars on dating sites and who just fudge some details. Take a close look at profile pictures because in more than one you’re likely to find evidence of Photoshopping.

 

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flirt with a woman 
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Flirting with a girl can open up the doors to something amazing with her, even if it’s just between the sheets. If you want to get her intrigued, there are a few things you need to do besides being confident and being yourself.

  1. Tell Her She’s Pretty

Let her know you think she’s attractive. This might not seal the deal, but it’s enough to let her know you’re interested in what she has. Make sure you do it in a unique way as opposed to just flat out telling her she’s pretty. She’s probably heard this a lot, so it doesn’t make you stand out by saying what all the other guys have said. You could say something about a specific body part of hers – besides her breasts or booty – such as her eyes. You could tell her how her eyes have a special sparkle to them.

  1. Introduce Yourself

Make sure you tell her your name as soon as you meet her. It’s easy to forget this step, and then she winds up thinking about who she was talking to for the last 30 minutes.

  1. Make Her Laugh

One thing to say to her is something funny. If you don’t same something funny, she may get bored.

  1. Ask Her About Her

Women like when a man shows interest in her, so ask some questions about her that aren’t too personal.

 

 

  1. Keep Conversing With Her

Don’t let the conversation end on your side. Make sure you keep talking to keep her engaged in the conversation.

  1. Talk About Her Likes

Ask her about her likes and let her know what you like. Women tend to feel a connection with men who have a lot in common with her.

  1. Listen

Although this isn’t something to say, it’s something you need to do. No woman wants to feel like you’re not listening to her.

  1. Be Honest

Don’t pretend to like something if you don’t. You don’t have to tell her you hate Mexican food if she likes it, but you don’t have to tell her you love it either.

  1. Turn a Corny Pick Up Line into a Joke

Go ahead and use a lame pickup line, and then start making fun of yourself for saying it.

  1. Ask for Her Number

If you think it’s going well, ask for her digits.

 

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sex tipe
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Erotic chatting online is a popular way of engaging in sexual behavior from a distance. Those new to the sex chat scene need to know a few rules before getting started. Otherwise, there could be some faux pas that could make the experience less enjoyable. For the newbies out there, here are the top 10 tips for the first time using sex chat.

  1. Wear Appropriate Clothing

Even if you plan to show a little skin during the conversation, it is always best to start out clothed. Most people like a little subtlety. It can also be embarrassing if the other online user has not yet secured their privacy. If you show up on camera nude, there might be somebody around to get offended. Always wear appropriate clothing to begin and take things off after having assessed the entire situation.

  1. No Real Names

Choose a screen name that the other person will easily remember. Using your real name can lead to problems. For example, someone could take a screenshot of you during a chat session. Under a nickname, you still have plausible deniability. In contrast, a screenshot of your likeness accompanied by your real name leaves no doubt as to identity.

Wait until you know more about the other party before divulging real names.

  1. Remain Calm

Sexchatting for the first time can be stressfull. You might wonder exactly how it is all done. You might be a bit anxious about being an internet chat virgin of sorts. This anxiety is understandable; however, it is imperative that you calm down. Appearing nervous will spoil it for you and your partner. They will probably begin to feel similar stress after sensing your vibe.

  1. Do not Tell People it is Your First Time
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Try not to let on that you have lack experience in sexchatting. When others know that their chat partner is new, they tend to try to dominate the exchange. Just appear confident. Always remember that nobody can make you anything you find uncomfortable.

 

 

  1. Slow Down

Everybody wants to be wooed. This advice goes for online and real world dating. Take your time. Let the mood build up.

  1. Speed Up

Likewise, nobody likes a wallflower. You are both on line to get down to business. So, with that understanding, proceed with the erotic talk.

  1. Have Fun

Try to always remember that sexchatting is fun. Do not get caught up in any online drama. Do not take things too seriously.

  1. Avoid Graphic or Insensitive Language

Newcomers to the chat scene often believe that the online world is full of raunchy individuals. While there are a fair number of these types, the average chatter wants to be treated with respect. Be careful in what you say until it is clear that your new friend is cool with certain words.

  1. Ask if They Want to Meet in Person

It is fine after a reasonable period to ask if they want to meet in person. If they respond in the negative, accept that decision.

  1. Always Remember to Log off and Clear the User History When Done

A failure to do so can lead to another person finding out about your leisure time activities.

One site where newcomers to the sexual freedom can meet others with open minds is SexNDate.

 

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Sexy lady

Sexy ladyThe anticipation and buildup is often better than the release. This is true no matter what you’re talking about, but this definitely applies to sex. Foreplay is key to increasing intensity and pleasure. Here are seven tips and ideas for foreplay:

  1. Talk dirty.

Talking dirty is a sexy way to start foreplay, and you don’t even have to wait until you’re in the bedroom. You can start at the beginning of the evening and ramp up the sexual tension. Tell your date what you want to do to him or her, and what you fantasize about.

  1. Quick, flirty touches.

Touch your date briefly at times when you can’t have sex. Tease him or her. Touch your hand against their upper thigh or chest for a second, or brush your body against theirs momentarily. The key is to leave them wanting more. This means no groping or grabbing. Use soft, flirty touches.

  1. Use a blindfold.

Blindfolding your partner will make them focus on every touch, every kiss. It increases the excitement for them because they’re not going to know what’s coming next. Kiss his or her neck and tease them with your hands. Let your hands roam their entire body, and pay attention to the erogenous zones. These include the lips, neck, ears, and nipples.

  1. Do something bold.

Do something sexually bold and unexpected. Something that will make him or her never forget you. Flash them in public. Ask him or her to undress you slowly in front of the window. Slip your hand down his pants or under her dress while you’re driving or at a dimly lit bar.

  1. Demonstrate to your partner what you want them to do to you.

Show your partner exactly what you want them to do. Touch yourself where you want him or her to touch. Stroke or finger yourself in the way you want them to. And let your partner watch.

 

  1. Sit facing the same direction.

Have your partner sit up with their legs apart. Sit with your back against their chest so that you’re both facing the same direction. Allow your partner to stroke and touch you. This gives you both a new perspective and makes touching different and exciting. You can also touch yourself in this position, so that your partner gets a view of what it’s like over your shoulder.

  1. Reenact a dirty scene.

Reenact a sexy scene from a steamy book or movie. Just the act of quoting the dialog and acting like the characters will get you both thinking of the inevitable ending. You can even add your own twist ending or take the scene in an unexpected direction to keep it even more exciting and sensual.

With these tips and ideas, you and your partner are sure to be wet and hard and ready for action.

 

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Threesome

When it comes to fantasies, it doesn’t get much kinkier than having a threesome. As a matter of fact, a threesome is at the top of many men’s wish list. Whether you knew it or not, you were probably just a few moments, seconds, or words away from having your first threesome. If only you would have known then what you are about to know, it would have already happened! Continue reading for a few tips to guide you into having your very first threesome.

It’s All About the ApproachThreesome

First and foremost, most -if not all- women have bisexual tendencies. However, if you are trying to convince your significant other to engage in a threesome, you should avoid using the term bisexual entirely. The key is to initiate the conversation with something like, “I just read a study that most women are attracted to other women in some way.” In any case, the key to having your first threesome is to do it for her. In the event she responds positively, you should make sure not to be too excited. Instead, you can communicate you are open enough to allow her fantasy to come true. If you approach the issue with the wrong angle, your woman’s answer will be “Heck no, and am not I enough woman or good enough for you anymore?” This will undoubtedly open the door for doubt and then jealousy.

Interpreting the Answer

In any case, you should always be respectful of your partners answer. If she responds as if the subject never entered her mind or with a staunch “No”, this means she isn’t into woman, and it has never entered her mind. As a result, you should avoid this subject and never bring it up again. However, if she does show some interest into the idea of a threesome, you may be in luck.

Understanding Your Role

Many women do express interest, but have always been afraid to get into bed one-on-one with another woman. Fortunately, you will be there to make her feel much more at ease, which explains your role as a guide. Your entire goal is to simply make your woman feel more comfortable fulfilling her fantasies. When you take this role and embrace it, your mate is much more likely to give the threesome a try.

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