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Dating Reality

You try to keep your car looking shiny, you spend time at bars and clubs, you break your back at work and let’s face it- if you weren’t doing all of that in order to raise your sexual market value then you’d either be living in a cardboard box or you’d be a manic bastard.

Stuck in the Dating Matrix

But if even for a moment, you were to suggest to a date or any woman at all really that you’re only out to gratify your sexual desire you’d get a drink in your face and possibly a harassment charge. Okay, maybe that’s not a fair characterization of your motivations. Maybe you really want to find a woman to have a meaningful relationship with, spark up a valuable and lasting friendship and build a lifetime of memories with. That’s certainly plausible and acceptable, and fine and not in the least bit boring.

But, in the meantime, it wouldn’t hurt to sow your wild oats and get laid with no ulterior long-term motives. Why should we be ashamed of not wanting to marry every woman we go to bed with? What do we want, to go back to the Victorian era? Not willingly, I’ll tell you that. And, I’ll tell you this, leading theorists are now saying that all socially imposed sexual reservation has an evolutionary explanation. They say that prudery exists in order to hold people back just long enough that when they finally jump into bed and go at it the chances of conception becomes much greater than if they were getting laid every day. So even sexual repression is dirty.

WOMAN

Enough is Enough

Why not admit it. The reason you’re looking at those other sites is to hook up with someone to get lucky with. So why not get off the sites where you have to pretend to want to walk on the beach with a stranger? Come on. You know it’s too cold this time of year to be walking on beaches in the evening.

Have a click around at a dating site where everyone is there genitals-first and isn’t afraid to admit. Aren’t you sick of all the pretense and deceptive selfies? Of course you are. Save yourself a hell of a lot of time and grief- and, have a little fun for once.

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Adventurous sex can be great sex. If you’ve always wanted to try a threesome, you’re not alone. Having sex with more than one partner at a time is the stuff of fantasy The trick is finding a partner for your perfect threesome who makes you and everyone else involved really happy If you want to try sex with multiple people at the same time, you have more options that you might think. Finding a partner for a threesome should be done carefully and slowly if possible in order to make sure you’re all on same page. At all times, you need to be aware of what you want and make sure that any potential partners share the exact same idea.

Your Local College Campus

Many college students are open to all kinds of new experiences as they try to figure out what’s important for them. Get a list of colleges in your area. Many have parties where you can mix and mingle. Hot, sexy coeds can be the perfect partner for a sexual experience you’ll never forget.

Sex Chats

Sex chats are a great way to find a partner for anything you have in mind. Join a sex chat already in progress or start a conversation of your own. Approach potential partners carefully and bring up the subject slowly. You might be surprised at just how many people are happy to be part of your plans.

Ask Your Partner

Before you do anything else, ask your partner. Most people have a primary partner they want to be around in addition to another possible partner. Maybe your partner has their eye on someone they’ve always wanted to be with. Maybe an old fling has popped in their lives again and they want to go for one last fun orgy with them. Your partner can be a great source of a willing participants in the threesome of your dreams.

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one-night stand
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The difference between a good one-night stand and a great one are these five simple questions:

1: What are they looking for tonight?

Above all, make sure that the one-night stand is only looking for a one-night stand (with a possibility of future booty calls, of course). Nothing is worse than finding out that one night of fun for one person is practically getting engaged to the other!

2: What are their future plans?

The best way to get those future booty calls is to treat the one-night stand like more than a one-night stand. Typical date rules still apply–finding out what she does and what her five year plans are is a great way to stand out from other hook-ups who treat her like she’s a disposable toy.

3: What they would like for breakfast?

This is a great “two-for-one” kind of question because it signifies to the date the intention of a one-night stand–that she will still be there in the morning. And it’s a functional, courteous question–the lover that is cooking her favorite omelettes in the morning is going to see more repeat business than the lover who tells her to just find something in the fridge.

4: What are their favorite activities on a date?

This is another question both fun and functional. If in the middle of a date, it helps in planning out the rest of the night. Customizing the rest of the date to her idea of fun helps to make sure she’s interested in that omelette breakfast, and hearing about what she thinks is fun helps to gauge her personality…valuable clues to have before the bedroom door shuts.

5: What is their impression of you?

This helps with making light conversation, but is also a good investment in finding future partners–knowing that she instantly liked the hair or hated the outfit means there’s a chance to adjust certain things before going out on the prowl next time!

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Fling and the City
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On-line dating sites and mobile apps for hook-ups enable casual sexual encounters. The opportunities for sexual adventures in any major city are outstanding.

Here are five common types of one-night stands and ways to have a better experience:

I Got So Drunk Last Night

Drinking alcohol removes inhibitions, which is good, but also creates poor judgment that may have unintended consequences. To avoid a nasty surprise, during the morning after, do not invite hook-ups to your home. A hotel room is better. If possible, rent the hotel room for only a few hours. Take a taxi home before morning. In this way, there are only fuzzy memories of the night before and it is easier to deal with a massive hangover alone.

Escaping from One that Won’t Let Go

Trying to change a one-night sexual encounter into a longer relationship usually ruins the game. To get out of this jam as quickly as possible, have someone else call at the appropriate time with an emergency need. There is a nice exception to this rule when both sexual partners want the one-night stand to develop into a friendship with benefits, for late-night “booty” calls in the future.

Get Freaky

One-night stands are opportunities to express sexual freedom and try exciting new things like a three-way or to explore sexual fantasies. It is easier to communicate specific sexual desires electronically, before actually meeting face-to-face. Don’t be shy. Be explicit and offer many details of what the encounter should be like.

Foreigner Visitors and Others on Vacation

Anyone in the city for only a short time and those new to the area want to have as much fun as possible. Limited time in the city prevents the forming of longer-term relationships. This time pressure helps visitors be comfortable with quickly getting to the good part, which is having hot sex with a stranger.

 

 

Business Casual

Meet potential sexual partners at business parties, company events, conferences, seminars, and even chance encounters at the hotel. Besides the hotel bar, try the fitness room and/or swimming pool. Invite a “hottie” back to the room for a cocktail.

Summary

Opportunities for one-night stands are readily available in any big city. Stay safe and have an approach that makes the encounters more enjoyable.

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Furniture Sex
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What do you do with these things?

  1. A white grand piano
  2. Plastic food wrap
  3. Baby oil

Answer: Cover the closed piano with the plastic wrap, warm the baby oil, pour it on your sexual partner in all the right places, and then make love on top of the piano.

You have just experienced “furniture sex.” Furniture used for sex can be almost anything, including a piano. Many enjoy spicing up their sex lives by getting out of the bed and trying more positions than the missionary one. There is furniture and aides made specifically for sex acts that are really hot. Always staying in bed is not.

Sex Furniture

This erotic furniture supports and holds people in certain positions to make the sexual acts easier or more stimulating, such as:

  • Slings and Swings – These are used to bind a person and/or hold them up in the air, in a desired position,
  • Benches – These support a person and allow a sexual partner the freedom to walk around the bench.
  • Chairs with openings – These chairs are comfortable and the opening allows access to the sexual organs.
  • Specifically designed pillows – These foam wedges and shaped items make sexual positioning more comfortable.

BDSM Styles

In the BDSM category, there are furniture and devices used to create the set and setting, such as:

  • Crosses, Pillories and Stocks – These are used to tie someone down and/or hold them locked in position.
  • Exam tables with straps and stirrups – These are another type of restraint system. They are for tying someone down and to hold their spread legs up in the air by using the stirrups.
  • Queening Stool – This is a stool with an opening in the bottom used for facesitting.
  • Smother Boxes – A box that locks a person’s head in place, below a hole, for facesitting.

Summary

Furniture now can be thought of in a new light. Sex furniture takes sexual activities to an enhanced erotic level that for many is quite enjoyable. There is even a special practice called “forniphilia,” which is a type of bondage that turns people into living furniture.

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Female Sex Fantasies
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There are a lot of female sex fantasies and at one time or another, you should make the effort to make them happen. After all, it’s no fun to simply fantasize. You want to be the one actually acting them out so that you can put a notch on your sexy bucket list.

  1. Out in the Open

Everyone has a little exhibitionism in them and the idea of possibly being caught can be hot. Not out in the open where there are a lot of people, but perhaps a park…

  1. At the Movies

Forget about making out in the theatre. There’s a completely dark room and super comfortable seats. Just move the popcorn aside.

  1. With a Stranger

Don’t use names. You meet someone, you find that instant connection, and urges are acted out upon immediately.

  1. At the Beach

With the sound of the waves crashing, it can be a great place to have sex. Just be sure to bring a blanket if it becomes a reality because sand and lady bits are not a good combination.

  1. On Camera

The idea of having a camera rolling while in the act is hot, hot, hot. Being able to watch it afterwards can help to bring back the mood instantly, too.

 

 

  1. In a Group Setting

Two is nice, but threesomes and moresomes can allow the “all hands on deck” that is highly worth fantasizing about.

  1. With Some Spanking

With a paddle or a bare hand, spanking can help to set the mood almost instantly.

  1. Tied Up

Women like to be tied up in many instances because they get to surrender. Whether it’s with rope, silk ties, or handcuffs, it’s definitely worth trying at least once.

  1. With Chocolate

Chocolate syrup dripping down particular body parts is hot – and having someone who is willing to lick all of that syrup up is even hotter.

  1. Sex in the Shower

There’s something about water beating down and lots of suds that is erotic and highly worth fantasizing about.

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Dirty Talk
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Dirty pillow talk, some like it, some don’t- and some could use a little coaxing. A little bit of dirty talking can be just the thing to turn your sex life up to 11- but it can be scary for some. If you you would like to do a little bit of dirty talking in bed and don’t know how your partner will respond, or if you think your partner would like you to talk dirty- but you’re a bit squeamish- here are a few tips to help get your love life off the Mute setting.

Test the Waters

If you don’t know how your partner feels about dirty talk, start off light. Saying something using a sexy tone of voice that isn’t normally sexy like, “Hey, beautiful” or “How are you feeling right now,” can be sexy if you use the right tone of voice and body language. This is just to see what it feels like to speak while initiating sex, and is a good way to get an idea of how receptive your partner will be.
 

It Needn’t be Rude

Don’t assume that dirty talk means using degrading language. This isn’t necessarily so. There are a lot of things to say other than “T-k- it b—-,” or “F— my p—y.” It’s the way you say it rather than what you’re saying. For example, you can say complimentary things using a sexy tone of voice that should go over fine with just about anyone. Phrases like, “You feel so good,” or “I love the way you do that” are hot and laudatory at the same time. If you or your partner would like to use language that is somewhat more x-rated, then you can easily work up to that once you’ve made sure you’re both comfortable with it.

 

Easing into Dirty Talk

Silent love making is okay, but gets boring after a while. So start out with a few quiet non-speech sounds. A moan or an Mmm sound can be a good start. Move on to the testing phrases while things get warmed up and then begin to experiment with things like the complimentary statements we mentioned. After that, if you’re both still in the mood- you’re free to take your dirty talking as far as you like.

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Both swingers and open people in an open relationship share a common thread. These individuals are looking for a bit of variety in their sex life and personal relationships. Yet, there are key differences between swingers and open relationship participants and it is a good idea to get to know the difference between the two–especially if either is an experience that you are looking to bring up to your partner as a suggestion to add a little spice and variety.

So what exactly is the difference between people who choose to “swing” and those in an “open” relationship?

It all boils down to one main difference: Swingers are looking for the occasional couple to trade partners with. This may be a one-time encounter, but it is not uncommon for swingers to find a couple who are also swingers and have multiple sexual encounters with them over time. The encounters are usually pre-arranged and agreed upon by both partners in the relationship. There may even be predefined guidelines about what can happen and where that are set in forth from the beginning. On the other hand, people in an open relationship are practicing something that is much more open. One partner or the other can choose to have relationships, either sexual or otherwise, with whoever they want, whenever they want and there are actually few boundaries.

Wouldn’t an open relationship be a lot more fun?

Well, the truth in this is it kind of depends on who you are and what you are comfortable with in a relationship. If you enjoy a lot of freedom and have no qualms about your partner doing the same, an open relationship can be quite rewarding for both parties involved. Each gets to enjoy their own ideas about sexual relationships without limit while still having a stable emotional partner that is a constant in their life. Swinging works out better for some who would rather experiment outside of their partnership in a more defined fashion, with rules in place to ensure both partners are happy.

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hookups for 2016
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Are you looking to spice up your love life for 2016? Rather than continue a series of needless lonely nights, consider taking charge of your sex life and take some chances. Confused as to where to begin? The following is a short guide to demonstrate how to make your 2016 a year filled with hookups.

Make Over

First thing’s first: New Year, new look! While many underestimate the amazing effects that changing your appearance can have on your sex life, take one look at social media and you’ll see that those who receive the most sexually-charged attention, also typically post sexy photos of themselves. Try cutting your hair, switch up your style of clothes, and making love to that camera. You’ll have random hookup requests filling up your inbox in no time.

Join a Dating Site

In the age of social media, it seems that most of us have grown accustomed to dating only those we meet online first. A great way to find those interested in hooking up from the comfort of your own computer or phone, try joining a site that promotes hookups and being honest about your intentions from the very beginning.

Be Bold!

Lastly, remember to be bold in your actions and requests. People are attracted to individuals that know what they want. While the thought of asking someone to meet up later or even accompany you to your home may frighten you, you’ll never know if you don’t ask. Many people are shy when it comes to sex and relationship matters. Nevertheless, you will often find that you receive fairly positive responses if you only have the courage to ask. This is not to say you should go around asking everyone you see to have sex with you. However, if the mood is right and you think they might be up for it, simply ask them. You might be pleasantly surprised!

Overall, hookups don’t have to be few and far between. Follow these tips and tricks and you’ll be well on your way to making 2016 a year of hookups!

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Places To Touched during Foreplay
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If you’re seeking the secrets to making your woman look forward to sex with you, it begins with showing her you understand the importance of true foreplay. Of course, the romantics will tell you the most effective foreplay is to touch her heart first, and everything else will be easy.

However, the fact is that women are physiologically different from men, and paying attention to foreplay will make for a much more satisfying sexual experience for both of you. While men can be turned on at a glance, most women need touching and caressing to get their engines revving. In fact, the natural lubrication of a women is brought into play specifically by foreplay, and all of her reactions are intensified by the time you spend touching and fondling her.

With that basic insight, you still have to understand the best areas to touch. The first thing to understand is that all women have some common “hot spots,” but your woman will probably have some special areas they enjoy you paying attention to. That means if you are in a longer-term relationship you should experiment and explore, testing the areas and ways she most enjoys.

Here are the areas most women find exceptionally sensitive:

  • Kissing, of course, but also gently kissing and stroking the cheeks, nape of the neck, and her ears.
  • Breasts are made for both to enjoy, especially the nipples and areola. Use your tongue to gently hold the nipple in your mouth while stroking with your tongue.
  • The inner thighs are key. Rather than going straight for the target, tease your mate by gently stroking all around her thighs and reaching back to her buttocks.
  • As a final step before penetration, gently rub the labia and the clitoris. Test her state of lubrication and slowly spread it over her clitoris as a way to achieve a heightened level of her desire to have you enter her.

With a little practice and patience, you will know exactly when foreplay ends and it’s time for the main act.

 

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