If you’re seeking the secrets to making your woman look forward to sex with you, it begins with showing her you understand the importance of true foreplay. Of course, the romantics will tell you the most effective foreplay is to touch her heart first, and everything else will be easy.

However, the fact is that women are physiologically different from men, and paying attention to foreplay will make for a much more satisfying sexual experience for both of you. While men can be turned on at a glance, most women need touching and caressing to get their engines revving. In fact, the natural lubrication of a women is brought into play specifically by foreplay, and all of her reactions are intensified by the time you spend touching and fondling her.

With that basic insight, you still have to understand the best areas to touch. The first thing to understand is that all women have some common “hot spots,” but your woman will probably have some special areas they enjoy you paying attention to. That means if you are in a longer-term relationship you should experiment and explore, testing the areas and ways she most enjoys.

Here are the areas most women find exceptionally sensitive:

• Kissing, of course, but also gently kissing and stroking the cheeks, nape of the neck, and her ears.
• Breasts are made for both to enjoy, especially the nipples and areola. Use your tongue to gently hold the nipple in your mouth while stroking with your tongue.
• The inner thighs are key. Rather than going straight for the target, tease your mate by gently stroking all around her thighs and reaching back to her buttocks.
• As a final step before penetration, gently rub the labia and the clitoris. Test her state of lubrication and slowly spread it over her clitoris as a way to achieve a heightened level of her desire to have you enter her.

With a little practice and patience, you will know exactly when foreplay ends and it’s time for the main act.