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Both swingers and open people in an open relationship share a common thread. These individuals are looking for a bit of variety in their sex life and personal relationships. Yet, there are key differences between swingers and open relationship participants and it is a good idea to get to know the difference between the two–especially if either is an experience that you are looking to bring up to your partner as a suggestion to add a little spice and variety.

So what exactly is the difference between people who choose to “swing” and those in an “open” relationship?

It all boils down to one main difference: Swingers are looking for the occasional couple to trade partners with. This may be a one-time encounter, but it is not uncommon for swingers to find a couple who are also swingers and have multiple sexual encounters with them over time. The encounters are usually pre-arranged and agreed upon by both partners in the relationship. There may even be predefined guidelines about what can happen and where that are set in forth from the beginning. On the other hand, people in an open relationship are practicing something that is much more open. One partner or the other can choose to have relationships, either sexual or otherwise, with whoever they want, whenever they want and there are actually few boundaries.

Wouldn’t an open relationship be a lot more fun?

Well, the truth in this is it kind of depends on who you are and what you are comfortable with in a relationship. If you enjoy a lot of freedom and have no qualms about your partner doing the same, an open relationship can be quite rewarding for both parties involved. Each gets to enjoy their own ideas about sexual relationships without limit while still having a stable emotional partner that is a constant in their life. Swinging works out better for some who would rather experiment outside of their partnership in a more defined fashion, with rules in place to ensure both partners are happy.

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Swingers are part of one of the hottest movements in the adult dating scene. From the movies to magazines, people are discussing open relationships. Yet, it is not as easy to find acceptable partners as it might seem.

Oh, there are plenty of men and women who want to experience a little variety in the bedroom. They may want to swap sex partners. But, in the end, problems seem to arise more often than they should. What could have been uncomplicated fun becomes a messy experience.

To help those who want to find the perfect swinging couple, here are three things to look for.

They Accept There Are No Strings Attached

One of the top problems experienced in the adult dating game is having couples want long-term relationships. This request can spoil the whole experience. The goal of swinging is to enjoy life on the wild side. Live for tonight, for tomorrow is never promised.

Swingers already have a partner with whom they are committed. They just want to try out something new in bed, without having to “cheat” on their lover. So, when it is time to find a new couple with whom to swap, it is always best that it is clear upfront there will be no further commitments. Each couple remains free to find another couple to fulfill their fantasies at any time.

 

 

They Leave Emotions at the Door

Similar to having no strings attached, it is always best when a couple knows how to remain free of emotions, especially jealousy and love.

Bad things can happen. A jealous man or woman suddenly begins to believe that their mate has fallen in love with another in the adult scene. Emotional people can ruin marriages and other relationships.

They Respect Secrecy

Adult dating is popular but not something that most want their bosses, neighbors or family members to know about. Always screen potential couples to avoid those who might not be able to keep their, and your, sex activities secret.

 

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Have you ever explored the option of an open relationship with your partner? Polyamory is described as being in a relationship with more than one person. It might seem like an interesting idea to entertain, but you may encounter some issues with this type of lifestyle if you aren’t careful. Sex is only a small part of the problems that might come up. The emotional ramifications are much tougher to deal with. There are people whose personalities are more geared towards enjoying this “free love” state. Here are the five types of partners that can maintain an open relationship.

Non Jealous Types

This is a pretty obvious type that can take adult dating in this open relationship way. If you see red, as in anger, or are one of those people who obsessively checks your partner’s social media, email, or smartphone, then an open relationship will only bring your angst and heartache.

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Previously Married Types

For people that haven’t been married before, they might not enjoy a relationship which isn’t headed towards marriage. For someone who has been unsuccessfully married, and subsequently divorced, they might be more inclined to just live freely by not being committed to one person.

Non Religious Types

Many religions frown on relationships that aren’t geared towards monogamy, so if you are active in your church, but want to experience polyamory, they might not welcome you with open arms.

Millennials: A New Generation With Open Minds

More and more young people are frowning on traditional relationships. They are more open to exploring sex with more than one person in a threesome setting, and even bisexualty is becoming more commonplace with the younger generation.

People Who Don’t Want Children

The traditional family isn’t so traditional anymore. Many people are putting off having children and committing to one partner. So if you don’t want children, you might be more open to having relationships with more than one partner since you aren’t worried about setting an example for a child.

 

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There’s love, there’s marriage, and there’s swinging even after the baby carriage. Just because you have a dedicated love relationship with another person does not necessarily mean there is now some artificial limit on sexual enjoyment. Love and sex can go together and they also can be separate.

Besides exploring your partner in a variety of delightful ways, it is also fun as a couple to explore “swinging.” As consenting adults, we can be in a relationship, be married, and still enjoy sexual play by being a swinger. It is especially easy and fun to find hookups for swingers in New York. Besides having some of the most interesting live swinging clubs on the planet, using the sexndate online system makes it easy to find the perfect playmate for swinging games.

In fact, at the live venues it can be hit or miss depending on timing and luck. In reality, finding a swinging partner through an online system, like sexndate, is more likely to produce a good result. Photos can be exchanged and proclivities discussed in great detail before meeting for the hookup, which should be fun for all involved.swingers

One fun game, enjoyed by couples, is playacting or role-play. People can take on the persona of an imagined character and give themselves the freedom to express the sexual desires that they really enjoy. Three-ways enjoyed by couples can really spice up their sex life. Almost everyone has some same-gender attractions or at least curiosity. Bi-sexual exploration uncovers new enjoyable experiences in a less stressful way that trying same gender stuff for the first time alone. Swinging allows exploration of various combinations that please both male and female partners. Moreover, using sex toys adds to the excitement. Don’t be afraid to try new things.

Another fun part of swinging in NYC is for those that like to watch. Being a swinging voyeur is like enjoying great porno, yet watching the goings on, close up, and in real life. Some like to record their private sessions on video, as if they are making porno, because it is fun to watch the videos before taking on round two. Nothing stops people from having a wonderful sex life. The swinger scene in NYC is ready to party along.

 

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Going to a swinger club or party in New York City is quite the experience. Having the chance to sample other sexual partners freely is something of which most people can only dream.

For new swingers, getting started can be a bit daunting. Nobody wants to make an embarrassing mistake. Therefore, to help people navigate the swinging world in NYC, here are the top three tips for first timers.

Never Be Too Attached to the Person You Brought

One of the cardinal rules of swinging is to learn how to share. Not everyone finds this rule easy to follow.

Honestly, most people want to have fun on the side. However, they may experience a twinge of jealousy upon seeing their partner with another man or woman. This emotion can ruin a good swinging environment. The group may perceive of the smallest negative reaction, such as trying to steer a mate away from others, as offensive.

Remember, the swinging community is not the regular world. Nobody wants to marry your wife or husband. In reality, they only want to borrow him or her for a little while. At the same time, you are free to enjoy the sensations of another partner. It is all about trust.

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Never Get Too Attached to Someone Met at the Club or Party

Likewise, it is a “sin” to develop an attachment to another member of the club or party. Again, trust is the key. Your everyday mate agreed to attend the swinging club. They still want to be a couple. After the night is over, you two should go on being the same loving couple. When someone begins demonstrating true feelings for a man or woman met at a swing event, it destroys the trust of a relationship.

If word gets out to others in the group, that person’s reputation becomes soiled. Nobody will trust him or her again. In most cases, the members will not want to leave their wife or husband alone with an individual known for developing feelings for others so easily.

Never Promote a Swing Club or Party Unless You Are Sure It’s Allowed

It can be tempting to inform friends about the swinging world, especially if you have known them for a long time. Yet, doing so remains forbidden for the most part.

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The hosts usually want to spread the word in their own manner. If others do so, they may invite someone incapable of respecting the stated and unstated rules. The swinging game is a volatile one. Missteps can ruin marriages and careers. The last thing you want to be is the person who invited the wrong couple to an event. Let those in the know do the promoting. You are there to enjoy things.

Armed with these rules, the average person can join the New York City swinging environment without causing problems. It is all about sexual freedom. Leave your worries at the doorstep.

 

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