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Furniture Sex
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What do you do with these things?

  1. A white grand piano
  2. Plastic food wrap
  3. Baby oil

Answer: Cover the closed piano with the plastic wrap, warm the baby oil, pour it on your sexual partner in all the right places, and then make love on top of the piano.

You have just experienced “furniture sex.” Furniture used for sex can be almost anything, including a piano. Many enjoy spicing up their sex lives by getting out of the bed and trying more positions than the missionary one. There is furniture and aides made specifically for sex acts that are really hot. Always staying in bed is not.

Sex Furniture

This erotic furniture supports and holds people in certain positions to make the sexual acts easier or more stimulating, such as:

  • Slings and Swings – These are used to bind a person and/or hold them up in the air, in a desired position,
  • Benches – These support a person and allow a sexual partner the freedom to walk around the bench.
  • Chairs with openings – These chairs are comfortable and the opening allows access to the sexual organs.
  • Specifically designed pillows – These foam wedges and shaped items make sexual positioning more comfortable.

BDSM Styles

In the BDSM category, there are furniture and devices used to create the set and setting, such as:

  • Crosses, Pillories and Stocks – These are used to tie someone down and/or hold them locked in position.
  • Exam tables with straps and stirrups – These are another type of restraint system. They are for tying someone down and to hold their spread legs up in the air by using the stirrups.
  • Queening Stool – This is a stool with an opening in the bottom used for facesitting.
  • Smother Boxes – A box that locks a person’s head in place, below a hole, for facesitting.

Summary

Furniture now can be thought of in a new light. Sex furniture takes sexual activities to an enhanced erotic level that for many is quite enjoyable. There is even a special practice called “forniphilia,” which is a type of bondage that turns people into living furniture.

Furniture Sex
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BDSM
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BDSM
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The popularity of 50 Shades of Grey has opened up the world of kink to a whole new group. If you are among the 65% that dreams of bondage, where do you start? Here’s a rough and dirty BDSM guide that will leave you and your partner satisfied and coming back for more.

1) Communicate
The most critical element of successful BDSM play is a lot of talking. Talk to you partner about your fantasies. Get detailed. Create lists of what interests you, what doesn’t, and what might be fun. Your playing field is primarily going to land in the area where the “Yes, Please!” lists intersect.

2) Educate
There is a wealth of resources available to the novice BDSM player. Meet up with other kinksters at a local munch, a public venue discussion group for networking and education on BDSM topics. Visit a local dungeon workshop on bondage, creative BDSM toy crafting, or safe flogging techniques. Pick up a book and learn how to engage safely and how to prepare for potential disasters.

3) SSC/RACK
SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) are the guidelines by which most BDSM participants center their play. It means both partners are fully aware of and okay with whatever is going to happen, mutual respect is central to the activity, and every effort will be made to prepare for and mitigate potential unexpected issues. Safe words, or a way to pause or stop scenes if they get too intense, are a part of this. Most public dungeons use the Red, Yellow, Green system. Red means stop immediately, yellow means pause, and green means go, baby, go.

4) Aftercare
A critical step in a BDSM scene, aftercare should not be overlooked. When done correctly, BDSM can be emotionally and physically intense, triggering an adrenaline response in both the ‘top’ and ‘bottom’. Aftercare helps the body and mind recover from that rush. Partners get a chance to connect and reassure that everything is well. Cuddle, eat something small, and enjoy each other’s presence. Once you are both back on Earth, talk about the scene.

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NYC BDSM Clubs and Events

The NYC BDSM dating scene is vibrant. It offers clubs and events to meet people with something for everyone interested in this subculture. For newbies, those with particular fetishes, Master dominants and Slave submissives, NYC aims to please.

The renowned Mistress Leda runs Arena Productions with her two dozen dominatrices. They hold the ever-popular annual Black & Blue Ball, which is “the” place to show off and be seen. Another annual meetup, held at the Rebel Club, is the Rubber Ball/Miss Rubber World that is both a BDSM party and beauty contest.

Jezebel’s is a club near the South Street Seaport that focuses on those men with leg and feet fetishes. They have all kinds of props and costumes. Mistresses range from slim twenty-somethings to robust full-size ladies. What the mistresses do in their off time is up to them. Two other popular clubs are Paddles and Pandora’s Box.

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Source: avphotocomua/BigStock

NYC BDSM Social Scene

DomSubFriends is a social group that meets monthly, usually at the Paddles Club. Their motto is reciprocal pleasure without specific boundaries to practice sane, safe, and consensual BDSM. The individuals involved in any scene decide their interests and limits. Exploring a foot fetish, being tied up, men having their balls shaved, or either gender being spanked are some of the things regularly shared by members of this group.

Lesbian women with a fetish for wearing uniforms and practicing military domination routines will enjoy joining up with the private association of women called the Dyke Uniform Corps. Another lesbian group is the private sorority called the Lesbian Sex Mafia. They hold monthly orientations for new members and sponsor events, workshops, lectures, and demonstrations, where it is easy for like to meet like in a social setting. Gay men have the leather bars in Greenwich Village to find a play partner. The Eulenspiegel Society is a non-profit group supporting the BDSM scene in New York.

Whatever you are looking for, you will find it in New York City.

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